Cancer Survivor, writing about Health and Fitness as you age

Why did I entitle this post, "So dock it from my pay"?  Well I went to get some servicing done on my car and the standard operating procedure is for me to call my husband before the dealership does anything extra.  He can decide if the work is reasonably priced (he usually says not).  It went something like this: I call G, no answer. "Go ahead and do the work, I can't reach my husband." 1 1/2 hours later my husband called back,  "How much??!!" when I told him the price-tag, and the first thing that went through my mind was, "So, dock it from my pay".  Yes, that non-existent pay, but it got  me thinking about one of the minefields for the stay-at-home parent - how to manage the money.  Should the parent get an allowance free and clear? Do you feel comfortable spending? Would you even consult your partner about spending on something if you were the one earning it?  So many questions. I've been very fortunate in our financial relatio...