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Funny story being part of a mixed race couple.

The kind that only interracial couples encounter. Awww mixed race couple   I've been married now for quite some time, so I do forget that we are in fact a mixed race couple and some people may be surprised when they see us together. Child without an owner When my son Lucas was young, we lived in a suburb St. Louis. The winters were cold and long. What to do with a small child? Take him to the mall and let him run around of course! Picture it when Papa took him: one little coloured child running around with no coloured person in sight. The people in the mall were befuddled. They did not know what to do with this child who had no owner. Should they intervene? Grab the kid? They certainly did a lot of looking around and swiveling! This was a predominantly (white) suburb, so not many coloured folks out there to even assign my child to a random but like-coloured stranger. It happens all the time. If our sons wanted to pretend like they did not know their dad, they could ...

5 Things I'll tell Lucas about race

I'll just get it out of the way - race is a complex issue. Multi-faceted with many, many perspectives. I have no answer to anything, because, well,  race is a complex issue; but here is what I'll tell my son: 1. Form your own opinion. You'll hear arguments and counter-arguments. Some who believe that being "colourblind" is the answer, and those who say that while the idea is noble, it may in fact invalidate racist experiences. And those who started #BlackLivesMatter to highlight violence against blacks, didn't mean that ONLY black lives mattered, but the counter hashtag #AllLivesMatter implied that it did. You may not even be aware of  "white privilege" and the many subtleties of that discussion.  The white person who is struggling to survive, and has no job, may be wondering what exactly is "white privilege".  They can't see it, but it is the privilege of not having to be aware of the colour of their skin - not in housing, in t...