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Facebook friend request? No thank you. How about LinkedIn?

Dear colleague and Facebook friend-wannabe:


" Yes, I did in fact get your friend request. It is sitting in my email inbox while I decide what to do with it.

You see, just because we are colleagues, it does not mean that I am interested in your friend's son's birthday nor what you and your partner ate for dinner last night nor where you ate even though I am sure the photos you would share would be very enticing. Frankly, while I am very happy to exchange work pleasantries with you, don't mistake that for being deeply interested in every detail (and I do mean detail) of your life and for me wanting to include you in my social circle of family and close friends.

Consider if you will, my 'social capacity index' - my ability to have a meaningful interaction with anyone via social media. It is pretty low, and gets lower with each additional friend. I can barely keep up with my immediate family as it is, far less extended family and close friends.

I am sure you are wondering how you could have totally misread the situation? I will explain this as gently as I can. I am fully present in our 2-minute kitchen conversation in the office while I warm up my lunch, but do you remember a time when I sought you out? Or did you ever seek me out for anything unrelated to work? I thought not. That is the kind of relationship we have.

So while I am flattered that you are interested in all the significant milestones in my life as well as those of my 100 other friends;  the picture of my new pair of shoes, and the random 7-minute YouTube video I re-posted; I'm afraid that I will have to delete that friend request. Please know that even though I don't 'friend' you,  this does NOT diminish your worth as a human being. 

Don't despair, remember we are "1st connections" on LinkedIn and they are always asking that I 'Reconnect with colleagues'. 

Thank you for understanding."

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