I love it when Liam shows me by his actions and his words that he is attached to me, it makes me feel warm and full, but not when it is 2:00 am, or when I am about to leave for Book Club and he is begging me to stay.
Liam has just turned three and is very attached to me, and most times I don't mind, but sometimes, I wish he would be less attached.
I remember when we (and by this I mean me), were looking into the idea of a family bed or co-sleeping before he was born. There were some who felt that the closeness and always being there when your child needed you made your child very secure and was reassuring. Now that he is 3 I wonder if him wanting me, and me staying when he wants is simply reinforcing a bad habit. My doctor would say "Yes!".
It is the same action, (him wanting me around) but the view of the action and my reaction could be different depending on which camp I'm in.
So should I continue to reassure him for as long as he needs? Or do I just rationalise his behaviour as "habit" and break him out of it? So far, I think it is ok for me to leave because when I come back he doesn't seem traumatised by my absence or unduly insecure because of my actions. And I am usually leaving him with his Papa. Surely that is not so unreasonable?
Liam has just turned three and is very attached to me, and most times I don't mind, but sometimes, I wish he would be less attached.
I remember when we (and by this I mean me), were looking into the idea of a family bed or co-sleeping before he was born. There were some who felt that the closeness and always being there when your child needed you made your child very secure and was reassuring. Now that he is 3 I wonder if him wanting me, and me staying when he wants is simply reinforcing a bad habit. My doctor would say "Yes!".
It is the same action, (him wanting me around) but the view of the action and my reaction could be different depending on which camp I'm in.
So should I continue to reassure him for as long as he needs? Or do I just rationalise his behaviour as "habit" and break him out of it? So far, I think it is ok for me to leave because when I come back he doesn't seem traumatised by my absence or unduly insecure because of my actions. And I am usually leaving him with his Papa. Surely that is not so unreasonable?
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