In my professional life I'd like to think that I actually had a competency of 7 out of 10, or even 8 when I was firing on all cylinders. Now in my amateur job of 6 months (or at best semi-professional), I have a competency of 5 or 6 on my best day. That's a blow to my self-esteem I have to admit. Now I don't think I was a better mom when I was working (in fact, it may be the other thing), but I believe that my expectations for myself are higher now. But reasonably, I should be able to complete a successful grocery-shopping trip with baby without incident, shouldn't I? That cannot be too high to aim. Keeping crap off the floor is another matter altogether.
But I digress as usual. Lucas did some sloppy work last week and I just wasn't able to convince him to rework it (aside from mandating that he do it). I was stumped, impatient, mad and made everybody unhappy. I felt incompetent because I know better. I know to use different words, but you know, 7-year-olds don't behave as predictably as spreadsheets and full-time at home with kids tests me to my limit, resulting in less than my best.
In my old job (where I worked for wages), not only did I know if I was doing the right thing, but if I was doing the wrong thing, I got told pretty quickly. In this job, I don't know what I'm doing and I won't know exactly how much damage I've wrought for another 10 years or so!
Aaahhh the joys of parenting...I still wouldn't trade this job for one with wages...at least not yet!
But I digress as usual. Lucas did some sloppy work last week and I just wasn't able to convince him to rework it (aside from mandating that he do it). I was stumped, impatient, mad and made everybody unhappy. I felt incompetent because I know better. I know to use different words, but you know, 7-year-olds don't behave as predictably as spreadsheets and full-time at home with kids tests me to my limit, resulting in less than my best.
In my old job (where I worked for wages), not only did I know if I was doing the right thing, but if I was doing the wrong thing, I got told pretty quickly. In this job, I don't know what I'm doing and I won't know exactly how much damage I've wrought for another 10 years or so!
Aaahhh the joys of parenting...I still wouldn't trade this job for one with wages...at least not yet!
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