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The second child

I am not sure how many parents out there wonder or are even concerned if maybe, just maybe, they prefer one child over another, even just a little. I believe it is not uncommon for many parents to think about this when another child comes along, especially if there is sufficient spacing between them and the one before.

I've found myself wondering about this, but I think a big part of the issue is that there is such a large gap between the older and the younger child (6 years). So while everything the baby does is in the "..isn't that sweet?" or "..isn't that amazing?!" category, everything my older child does these days falls into mischievous or thoughtless category. All the amazing things he does gets relegated to "..well I expect no less from you.." While the baby still wants cuddles and lots of loving, Lucas is less interested.

I suspect a contributing factor is also that I spend a lot more time with the baby than I ever spent with Lucas. I worked full-time with him and the evenings were a blur of dinner, bath and bed so the only time I really got to spend long stretches of time with him was the weekend. Much of what I am seeing now in the baby, I missed with Lucas. Simple things like watching him try and try again to get his feet into his slippers while his toes are splayed out, and then his expression as he is finally able to wedge his feet in. How could I not fall in love with him over and over again? He is a reminder how wonderful the two gifts we have, are.

I truly try to appreciate my little one, and savour every moment I have with him (except when he doesn't want to sleep), while we wait for him to turn into his big brother.
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